Am I Giving Up To Soon?

Hi all,

I have decided to sell my tanks and fish as I just don't have the health, money and know how to keep fish.

Stanley has lost more of his tail and is really depressed. His tank is covered in white stuff, bacterial bloom, if that's what it is.

I don't want to make a rash decision but i've had enough of the worry and the constant feeling that I don't know what I'm doing! And it's the poor fish that suffer.

I'm really depressed.

Where is the best place to sell whole set ups, so you know they are going to people who know what they are doing??

FC76

 

i feel like giving up all the time but if you did give up
you would be at a lose end and also your stress would rise
i am also in ill health and in 43 years have threatened to give
up loads of time the last time was yesterday lol yeah yesterday
we all have our up and downs .how long have you been keeping
you have to give it five years look at me i started when i was about seven
there about it was in the early 70s stick in read as much as you can on fish keeping
dont be afraid to ask questions i am old school but i keep borrowing bits from the new school
of thinking go and find a fish keeping book from the early 70s and read that might put your
mind at rest its a lot easier to keep fish today than it was back then i tell you lol dont give
up you will not know what to do with yourself i keep fish i paint watercolors in fact i sit paint
and watch my fish where i have my painters desk i have a roma 125 and the neon's in there
are some that amanda rescued and i tell you the color of them now is amazing that is one of the
reasons i can give this hobby up beside that i am a fishkeepingholic there i have admitted it 
dont give up

Hi Fishcake,

It's a real shame to hear that your fish-keeping experience has brought you so much anxiety and stress, especially with your health being not as good as you'd like it to be.

I think that whatever you decide to do, you shouldn't beat yourself up too much about things that have gone wrong. I'm sure that there are thousands of people who buy pets of all sorts without having the slightest intention of ever trying to keep them happy and well, and you definately don't fall into that category!!

I wish I could take your fish myself, but I'm right up in the northeast of Scotland, so that would be impossible. Two suggestions spring to  mind about rehoming your fish, if that's what you definately decide to do:

1. Find if you have a local aquarist society – get the main contact's details and ask him/her for help re: rehoming (or, if they were happy to do so, and you felt you wanted to try, helping you get over your tank/fish issues). They may be able to put the word out to knowledgeable people who could step in.

2.  Try Gumtree, that way you could ask the relevant questions about experience if anyone responds to your ad.


If your fish and tanks are making you miserable, then giving up for now and trying again, perhaps, at a later date
is not such a bad (or permanent) option. No doubt when you come back to the hobby we'll all still be here moaning, fretting and talking about poo! 

I don't know if your on Facebook fishcake, i am and i typed in Grimsby aquatics and came up with not only local shops, but groups of people (mad, bad, sad and some good) who buy ans sell in my area, it's worth a look. Hope your stress free for Christmas